Your quiz result is below! This is the type of parent you most often revert to when you're triggered. You also have 2 secondary types.
Keep reading to see what they mean & why they happen.
Primary Type: The Blank
When your child triggers you - you most commonly respond as the Blank Parent.
πOverwhelmed, stuck, drowning, frozen are just some of the things you may experience daily. You may feel like you just don't know what to do and would almost rather give up because you've exhausted all the options.
πIt can be very isolating and lonely, even to the point of feeling invisible to your family.
πYou may have had an upbringing where you thought you needed to be perfect, where you weren't given enough opportunities to safely fail, or where your parents created roles for you to fill. You may have even had Blank Parents yourself.
πYou aren't alone though, and you aren't incapable!
βΌοΈ The problem is....
you might appear checked out, hands off, at a loss or even clueless. You may numb with substances.
Your kids may not feel your presence and connection. Some Blank Parents get misdiagnosed in adulthood with attention deficit disorders.
Secondary Type 1: The Problem Solver
One of your secondary types, when you are triggered is the Problem Solving Parent.
π When you get triggered, you go right into "fix-it" mode and try to smooth things out.
πYou may be the mediator in the family, or at an extreme you can be enabling, rescuing, or over-pleasing to the point you lack healthy boundaries.
π You may have taken on too much responsibility as a child, you may have had parents who were very critical and focused on appearance or achievement.
π The reason you have this reaction when you're triggered is because it's a stress response and it's become automated without you even realizing it.
π Although you're coming from a place of love and kindness, the hyper-productive, over fixing Tiger parent within you is hindering your child's ability to develop resilience and other important life skills.
π It's not your fault, and there's something you can do about it.
Secondary Type 2: The Authority
One of your secondary types, when you are triggered is the Authority Parent.
π You may have been raised in a strict home with authoritative or controlling parents. Your childhood may have been a series of high bars you were expected to meet.
πYou may like predictability, rules and clear boundaries. You can come off as controlling, demanding of respect, or as having high expectations.
πMaybe you have been cast as the "bad cop" in the family, but you aren't actually bad, you are just trying to do your best as a responsible parent.
πThe problem is that this can come across as intimidating and scary for your kids and over time, this blocks off connection and errods your relationship.
"Shifting my perspective and starting to understand the origin of my struggles with parenting was HUGE!...Rachel is very skilled at helping to quickly identify issues and point blank, but kindly, pointing them out"
-BR, mom of 2
Hi, I'm Rachel Duffy!
I’m a Conscious Parenting coach who helps families — just like yours — transform their relationships from stress & disconnect to ease and connection.
After spending a decade as a family law litigator, I realized that I wanted to help families on a deeper level and the impact I wanted to make was not aligned with the work of a divorce attorney. I wanted to help families create deep connection and trust, a space where their kids would be seen and heard without compromising the importance of structure and boundaries. The kind of connection and environment I had been seeking inside my own family growing up.
After becoming a parent to 3 kids, I became certified as a Conscious Parenting coach and have been helping families integrate on deeper levels so they can actualize their dream family life: to have great family connection and feel proud of how they respond to their kids even in the heat of the moment.
